How To Build Confidence In Kids

How To Build Confidence In Your Child

Do your children fight with each other, is sibling rivalry rife in your house?

Is your little one scared, fearful, timid and clingy or is your child loud, acts up, defiant and angry?

Are you constantly being called up by staff at Kinder, Pre-School or School because your child has been in a fight or disruptive again?

You can stop despairing and feeling like a bad parent, the good news is we have found all children and family’s,  including physically, emotionally or intellectually impaired children, dealing with a range of issues respond well to the The Goulding SleepTalk™ Program.

Issues such as

  • bed-wetting,
  • tantrums,
  • trauma,
  • stress,
  • sibling rivalry
  • separation anxiety

The primary goal of the Goulding SleepTalk™ Program  is to help your child to develop a positive self-image and calmness, coupled with the self-belief of I’m OK, I can do it!

The Goulding SleepTalk™ Program helps your child to accept or re-establish a positive belief structure, replacing previously accepted negative suggestions.

The Goulding SleepTalk™ Program – requires five minutes of your time every evening for a minimum of three months.

The Goulding SleepTalk™ Program is done by one parent each and every evening, we have found it best for parents to take it in turns and to do the process on alternative nights. The process only takes 5 minutes and over time, actually activates a process called Neuroplasticity.

The central issue must be the acceptance of suggestion without conscious critical analysis during sleep, without awakening the child or causing conscious confusion.

At the same time it is necessary to make sure that you are accessing the subconscious mind at brain-wave levels ranging from the deep Alpha to the light Theta (approximately 8-6 electro-magnetic cycles per second).

It is important that your child is not deep asleep, i.e. levels at Delta 0.5 – 3.5 electromagnetic cycles per second when presenting The Goulding SleepTalk™ Program. But this is very simple to do with this process.

Achieving the correct level of brain-wave frequency, yet not interfering too much with the normal sleeping habits of your child is the major objective.

Without using an EEG it is difficult to access the absolute frequency, or indeed be a hundred percent sure that you are working at the most appropriate level.

An indication of depth of awareness has to be obtained, so your child’s movement during the process is a consistent indicator that the transference to the lighter or more appropriate level of electromagnetic cycles per second has occurred.

The ‘Top Hat’ theory was developed which is a simple process that allows you the parent access to the most appropriate brain-wave frequency for your individual child.

Whilst asleep, the conscious mind rests, but the subconscious mind always has a level of awareness. The correct term use to explain this is: “The Reticular Activating System” (RAS). It is as though the subconscious mind has an antenna which tells you to wake up and it’s the antenna of your subconscious mind. (See diagram 1.)


For example, when your baby/child cries out in the night, you will awaken, even if your two doors away. And yet you may remain asleep when a car backfires as it passes the house.

As part of the Goulding SleepTalk™ Program, you direct your child’s conscious mind to stay asleep, by communicating with your child’s subconscious mind via the antenna. For The Goulding SleepTalk™ Program to be effective, it is imperative to engage the correct brain-wave frequency of your sleeping child. For further information regarding this aspect contact an Accredited SleepTalk™ Consultant.

In other words, take off the “Top Hat” – the conscious mind of your child by repeating specific suggestions. (See diagram 2.)


The Goulding SleepTalk™ Program  enables you to talk directly to the subconscious mind of your child without interference from the conscious mind which may be influenced by any negative beliefs already accepted by the subconscious mind. (See diagram 3.)


At this particular point, what you say to your child is critical, so make sure there are no external noises such as a radio, TV or other people talking. The phrases that you suggest have been researched and proven over 35 years to be most beneficial and effective in the reinforcement of unconditional love, self-esteem and the outcomes resulting from this process will assist in the developing of a strong, positive self-confident foundation of belief. They are ethical, safe and positive.

The positive phrases that are suggested, when presented to the subconscious mind in this specific manner, will be accepted, without consideration and hence possible rejection. They sit next to the negative beliefs and fears in the subconscious mind of your child. (See diagram 4.)


On the completion of this process, you will return your child to normal sleep. ie. Put the “Top Hat” back on by repeating specific suggestions and the child will return to Deep Asleep” (See diagram 5.)


Over time these positive phrases will dominate negative beliefs leaving your child with positive suggestions rather than the previously accepted negative cognitive inoculations. Not only have you commenced to defuse or even replace negative emotions or issues, but you have presented a solid foundation of self-image with the belief of unconditional love. As a result the intensity of fear, insecurity, anxiety and trauma start to reduce. In time if presented consistency it activates Neuroplasticity.

Guidelines for Success
It is important to remember that the suggestions for the ‘Foundation’ process are just as significant in the waking state. An added bonus of this empowering process is to bring to your attention the POWER of suggestions, and to be mindful of the correct and positive use of communications with your child or children. Contact Sally Schinkel for additional information.

Sally Schinkel Accredited SleepTalk™ Consultant
Sally Schinkel
Accredited Goulding SleepTalk™ Consultant

The Goulding SleepTalk™ Program can HELP to  build confidence in your child.

Copyright The Goulding SleepTalk® process, developed by Joane Goulding in the 1970’s.

Sally offers The Goulding SleepTalk™ Program  over 6 sessions.

Connect with Sally Today To Ask A Question About The Goulding SleepTalk™ Program and How It Can Help Your Child.

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